Here you’ll find practical, trauma-informed tools to support your clinical work—whether you’re helping a betrayed partner establish safety through boundaries or guiding a partner who has caused harm toward accountability and relational repair. Resources include fillable templates, clinician-facing guidance, and real-life examples drawn from established best practices in betrayal trauma and addiction recovery.
Stay tuned as we continue to add materials that support healthy disclosure, emotional safety, and long-term recovery for couples healing from betrayal.
Betrayed Partner Boundary List
What It Is
A compassionate, trauma-informed resource designed to help betrayed partners identify and express the boundaries they need in order to feel safe, respected, and emotionally secure after discovering sexual betrayal. Grounded in CPTT and CSAT principles, this document includes both a blank, fillable template and a sample completed version to provide clarity and inspiration.
How to Use with Clients
This tool is best introduced once the betrayed partner has had space to begin grounding and processing the trauma of betrayal. You can guide them through the blank version in individual sessions, helping them name their needs without guilt or pressure. The included sample can serve as a reference to validate and normalize their process. Once complete, the boundaries can be shared with the offending partner in a supported setting (e.g., conjoint session, therapeutic disclosure prep).
Betraying Partner Integrity Guide
What It Is
A practical and respectful guide to help the betraying partner (offending spouse) learn how to consistently honor boundaries and rebuild safety. This resource is informed by CSAT and CPTT frameworks as well as Dr. Omar Minwalla’s research on relational betrayal and integrity abuse disorder. The download includes both a filled-out example and a blank template to guide self-reflection and accountability.
How to Use with Clients
Once boundaries have been established by the betrayed partner, this guide can be offered to the offending partner to deepen their understanding and practice of relational integrity. Encourage them to read the sample responses to see what empathy and ownership might look like in action, then complete the blank version themselves. Therapists may choose to review these responses in session, helping the client refine their approach and better align their behavior with their partner’s expressed needs.
